Angela, Washington DC, 20 years

Q: I am totally in love with a man and am even contemplating marriage after college, but I've always had a desire to sleep with a woman. Does that make me a lesbian? Should I try to fulfill my desire? And should my lover know?

A: If you really want to do so, I think you should. Maybe you just want to know how it is or maybe you'll like it (which isn't bad at all). Of course you should have a good conscience with that (also concerning your boyfriend).